Originally Posted by nycindie
I'm sorry but these two statements seem rather at odds with each other. Reading their chats seems invasive and fear-based to me. You say you had E's permission -- but did you have hers? If you did not, you have invaded her privacy - is that really okay with you? That's a bit of Couple Plus Unicorn thinking there, to think that he's the only one you need to clear it with.
This stood out to me as well. I know it's seen as just another way of showing you can trust and be trustworthy (by giving your passwords to each other) but I have always felt in my heart of hearts that it still doesn't go the distance in ensuring that you do, in fact, trust them to make decisions that won't jeopardize the relationship. There is still micro-managing involved.