True enough. We have come to the same conclusions that you outlined. I knew that poly wasn't a solution for broken relationships. I overestimated the health and strength of the relationship I have with Blu. We have been having much deeper talks than we ever have and the subject of maybe we shouldn't be married has come up. What happened through the brief months with Bent is that she realized that she wasn't getting what she needed sexually from me, and I suppose it goes both ways. So we have mutually agreed not to have sex because its just not working right now. It allows us to work through all the other issues in our marriage.
She tends to not like the therapy route, so I can't see us going that way.But yeah, we have realized that we have to work through our issues before we embark on something different. We may just have to end as a primary relationship. We'll see.