I'm sorry that this man of yours is so lost in his NRE that he has become blinded by it. He doesn't seem to realize that he will lose you and the life you've had if he doesn't get his act together and be more considerate. It sounds like you have made some progress and that is positive.
I would invite you to do a tag search Go to the search engine on the tool bar and look for 'tags') here for "NRE" "cheating" "lessons" "foundations" There are many threads there that could help you understand how to cope better with his cheating, how to establish a solid foundation in this new relationship dynamic and help you understand his current love state with not only this woman (her being above board now) and with poly in general.
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