Originally Posted by persephone
I am drafting a letter to my friend that lists exactly where I see problems with her behavior and specifies what my personal boundaries are with regards to her and partners of mine. If she can agree to respect my boundaries, I am willing to let this go. I do agree with you, Anneintherain, that it is pretty creepy that she offers sex when the guy has already said no.
The bold is how I looked at it. I don't know if I would let this go. It creates some red flags for me in my head anyways. I think I would be asking her why she listened to me complain about not seeing him much etc. and then approached him with sexual offers. I would express my confusion over that and indicate that it makes me feel really uncomfortable. Call me old fashioned but I prefer to be let in on who is approaching my partners from the person themselves. I just find it more respectful and considerate that way. I wouldn't say no, as it isn't for me to yay or nay, but I just find it polite some how.