Originally Posted by Curmudgeon
FTR, I would be fine if he had a number of casual girlfriends, but anyone steady...concerns me
Why should him having a steady girlfriend make you concerned?
It's honesty you should be concerned about. If he has a steady girlfriend and is honest and open with her, and with you, then great. If he has a casual friend-with-benefits, and is not honest with her about you, or with you about her, then NOT great.
It's not the status of his relationships that should be of concern, I think. It should be his honesty and integrity, regardless of the status of ANY of his relationships that should be of concern. At least, that's what I think. Evaluate his honesty and openness about his other partners, and verify directly with them if needed, and judge and conduct your own relationship with him accordingly.