Originally Posted by desire
What is the right and fair thing by both of us now? Is there something like that? He is clear what he wants, he wants both of us...
No one else can actually tell you the right and fair thing (kind of like Dorothy and her red shoes and the way home).
What you absolutely must do is start defining what you (*YOU*) want. You have said he is clear what he wants, you have said you want to save the relationship, what do YOU want? That's the first steps on the road to finding what is right and fair.
I'm so sad you're hurting so much. I'm glad you came back to the forum, I hope you find some answers and comfort here.