I sincerely thank everyone for their responses made from the first day i posted.
Some really good advice, challenging questions that made me re-evaluate my thinking....i can absolutely see that when polyamory is practiced in a fully open and honest way it can be a wonderful thing.
Kudos to you all.
I would be ok for comments to be made from my ex master and the other if they felt so inclined.
@Dingedheart....one thing i cannot refute is that he is dominant and definitely not pretending to be something he is not. I won't chase the 'why' i promise.
@nycindie...thank you x