Dingedheart, problem solved in that we are no longer together. I found out he had been dishonest and had met with 'the other' a few times without telling me which broke the instruction. 'The other' thought it was quite ok to break the agreement too despite proclaiming to me that she would abide by it to the letter.
Nice honest people with no shame.
I have no idea if either would like to comment.
Can you tell i'm hurting.
Ps. Great introduction to polyamory for me....not