I'm glad to hear MBG is doing well (as well as might be expected)
I just saw your request for resources on figuring out what you want. My all time favorite author on that topic is Barbara Sher. Her first (I think) book is called Wishcraft. A lot of people came up to her after that book and said, "I know your stuff would work for me, if only I knew what I wanted." So, she wrote a book called 'I could have anything, if only I knew what I wanted' (or something very like that).