Thank you all so much!
Thank you for so many good talking points.
I think she is creeped out by two things.
1) That we are sexual beings.
2) That we are sexual beings with other people, especially her mom.
Her mother made it very clear to her that she is not ashamed of her lifestyle and that as an adult who is 46 years old and happily married that she can make decisions that are absolutely not appropriate for a young teenager.
We will continue to press the issue that her life is not going to change, but I think it may be a time will tell thing for her.
The snooping I have to deal with, I just did not want to mix it to seem like you caught us so we are punishing you!
Will write more later.