No need to apologize, nycindie. I love your chiming in.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, your situation sounds really nice.
Although I don't love Bob, I don't know how my feelings might change if we keep doing what we're doing. But now that I've gotten to the bottom of how I want to handle this, I know I don't have to worry too much about my feelings. They are what they are and they might deepen but I don't want to be careful about that. I just want to keep my expectations to minimum when it comes to Bob (and some other things too, but that will take more work). Right now I feel like I can do this without getting hurt. Who knows, I may end up heartbroken, but I just really don't think that'll happen.