Poobah welcome back. Things have shifted again...how did you get to my marriage has nothing.? Is this the result of the 2 of you focusing on your marriage. Did you make through the Holidays before finding this out ?
Whats stopping you from ....looking for the "right " relationship. Why cobble 2,3, 4 inferior relationships together to make something tolerable.
If you know the "type" of women you want and are fixated on the fact that oso isn't it ... do everyone a favor and go find the right one.