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Old 04-17-2012, 12:08 PM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Originally Posted by NovemberRain View Post
I used to not be able to tolerate touching on my neck ~ I had an incident in toddlerhood of someone holding me down by my throat. Now I can barely stand fabric at my throat, but I think that's more due to my physical condition. I used to love turtlenecks (now too hot, plus the whole choking feeling). But the touch is fine (not that many folks touch there!)
I don't know where it comes from, but I really don't like having (the front of) my neck touched. I can't wear necklaces that are short, let alone a choker (not that I wear jewelry often). Can't wear turtlenecks (or even mock turtlenecks, or any high neckline at all that isn't very stretchy) - spend the whole day tugging at my neckline.

Dude and I will be spooning on the couch watching TV and he will be absentmindedly stroking my arm, boob, ear, jaw...gets to my neck - "Aaack!" - and I jump up off the couch.

Dude, and VV now that I think of it, sometimes enjoy being choked lightly during sex play (which I can accomodate) and have apparently had previous partners that also liked this (not me). Doesn't freak me out now - but I had to learn how to re-direct them without breaking flow. Again adjustments...

Originally Posted by NovemberRain View Post
Don't even think about touching my belly button. (oh we've had stupid fights about *that*)(I know he thinks I'm holding it back from him to be spiteful, but if he touches it the mood is so far gone as not to return)
Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
OH! I'm the same way! I hate that. My ex never could understand why I'd slap him away from my belly-button. Stay away, I mean it! I don't know why, I just hate the feeling. Ewww. And TOUCH is my most prominent love language, so go figure.

My sister is the same way about her belly-button, ever since she was a little girl and saw the Three Stooges episode where someone sticks a beach umbrella into Curly's belly (he was under the sand). You can't go near her - she'll scream and kick.
Sounds like this is fairly common! I squirm just thinking about someone thinking about touching my belly button. My reaction here can be involuntarily violent as I attempt to defend my naval. For some reason this ends up coming up in conversation (MrS, I'm looking at you!) when we are all hanging out, drinking, talking. Moving day a few years ago Dude and MrClean playfully (and drunkenly) decided that they were going to test this and proceeded to try to carry me off out of the garage. MrS warned them that I could not be trusted to control my defense reflexes in this regard (he was a recipient of an involuntary knee to the 'nads back in college). Final outcome was that I single-handedly (literally, ONE hand) moved an upright freezer about 2 1/2 feet as I grabbed on in an attempt to resist an anticipated belly-button-touching. Took 3 guys to put it back in place.

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (24+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (6+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost lover-friend to me, FWBs to SLeW
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

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