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Old 04-17-2012, 02:45 AM
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Originally Posted by maximus View Post
My sex life before kids was amazing and frequent and....after kids is barely non-existant. I mean once a month if i am lucky.
I have tried begging, nagging, asking, pleading, romaticising.... nothing works.
Hmm... have you tried taking over more of the housework and childcare? Getting a sitter? That might do the trick.


Adding additional partners to the equation won't help the basic problems. Don't look far afield. Bring your attention to what she needs to feel like she has a partner, not on what you need to get off.
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