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Old 04-16-2012, 08:14 PM
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Originally Posted by CielDuMatin View Post
Look, I'm not going to defend the guy automatically, but for those who made blanket statements that "timing" must mean "cheating", I don't agree.
I would like to point out that I said it is highly suspect but not that it MUST mean cheating. I said that it sounds like he's cheating IF they've already been fucking and he hasn't told her.

Originally Posted by CielDuMatin View Post
Even if I have a great poly relationship, if something dramatic has happened in my partner's life (death of a family member, lost job or whatever), that would be a horrible, selfish and irresponsible time to introduce the fact that you just met a potential person and that you want to explore a relationship with them.
I agree and stated something similar. However, it seems that the OP and this man have already gone beyond the point of considering exploring something. She says they have "been together 3-4 times" and that she cannot "help but feel guilty for being with someone whose partner does not yet know about me." I took "Been together" and "being with" him to mean that they have had sex. Maybe I'm wrong. Obviously, we don't have clear details.
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