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Old 04-16-2012, 08:03 PM
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Moving a relationship from mono to poly is hard for most people. Add in a d/s dynamic and it makes it all the more challenging, in my opinion.

For me, the important part of that transition is that it's done together, with the agreement and active willingness of all. The worst poly starts have been one person telling their partner "I'm poly, get used to it and accept me!" without any real discussion. When you're in a d/s setup where there is a "master" that dictates what folks should be doing, and issues "instructions", then it takes a VERY good dom/me to make that transition in a way that totally takes into account the feelings, insecurities and fears of the sub.

Doing what he has, and informing you in an an email, is a crappy way of going about it, dom or not. It doesn't respect you or the relationship you have.

"Listen, or your tongue will make you deaf." - Native American Proverb
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