It's not what I get out of it, it's what I have the opportunity to put it. One of my men is a serious introvert. It was very painful for me to try to love him in a mono way, because he just doesn't have the capacity to take/receive all that I have to give. The other one can take most of it, but in a mono way, I wasn't getting enough back to live on (so it's a little bit about what I get ~ can't live on nothing coming in, whether it's money or sex or food).
I saw redpepper once say 'I'm a relationship geek' and I think I am too.
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein
Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who now lives in a house far away-with stairs I can't climb)