Hmm, I've had abnormal pap smears before, and then they always have me do it again and they come out normal the second time. I don't know why that is. But you say that you were definitively diagnosed with HPV? I don't know much about HPV but there is a long thread about it here with some links to sites that have information, I believe. But, yeah, it would be helpful to get feedback from people who have it and how they go about having sex and protecting themselves.
Sorry to hear this!