Originally Posted by wheredowegofromhere
...what can we do to make sure we stay in love? I want to be first, more important than anyone we add to our relationship, but that may change if I do really enjoy the person we add.
There are no certainties. Proceed slowly because I'm here to tell you that even if your intent is to add a person only for 'fun', it can turn to more. If you're not ready to face that possibility you may want to sit down and discuss with your mate exactly what your expectations are and all the 'what ifs' that may arise.
My husband and I have been through it, and we still love each other. But he's had a struggle with jealousy in accepting that I also love another man. And he used to say the same thing 'I want to be first, I want to be the one you love more'. Let me tell you that love is not a measurable commodity. I have two men in my life, one I live with and one I don't, but I love them both very much and would never want to be made to choose...