Welcome to the forum from the other side of the country!
I'm in a 4 year FMF "V" and I think most of my life is fairly unexciting, with some notable exceptions. I actually think that there are a large number of poly folks who are "just getting on with it" and who never see a reason to sign on to forums or even make themselves known outside of a small circle of folks.
Please check out The Birdcage - an open, friendly Polyamory forum for all parts of New York State
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