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Old 04-12-2012, 12:32 AM
Mudita Mudita is offline
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just because he loves you enough to stick around doesn't mean he doesnt feel shit inside.
I tend to agree with this

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I don't see this situation being sutainable, the longer this situation carries on probably the more the resentment/pain will build up under the surface.
and this assuming the bf makes no efforts to resolve his jealousy issues




however not this
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it would be prudent to break up with your lover...
or this
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If your not that fussed about him stick with the lover, dump the bf to be kind
People can change if they want to. If the boyfriend is able to work through his jealousy issues there is no reason they can't be happy together, and who knows, maybe he will come around to the idea of being poly himself.

The "dump the bf to be kind" seems to be very patronising to the boyfriend.

All relationships take work, poly or otherwise.
Dumping and moving on is the easy way out.
Aurelie seems to be choosing to stay and fight to make the relationships she values work for _ALL_ parties and deserves credit for this.

Last edited by Mudita; 04-12-2012 at 12:42 AM.
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