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Old 04-11-2012, 05:27 PM
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I only have time to comment on one point...

If I were you, I would have a night together where you say, "Let's just hang out or cuddle," and not have sex. Don't "warn" him in advance. Just schedule your regular get-together and after he arrives, in a very relaxed way tell him you'd rather just connect with him without sex tonight.

Do something else, go out for the evening, take a walk, play cards, watch a movie, whatever.
The world opens up... when you do.

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