Very sorry your marriage is ending. I hope that process goes smoother then the lead up to it. I know you're hurt and depressed and possibly apathetic but you need to separate those feels from the business of divorce. She decided...she wants....she needs........you need to stand up for what's fair and what YOU want....don't hurt yourself further by rolling over because the pain makes you not care right now. Wait if you have to.
Good luck in the future. D