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Old 04-11-2012, 04:33 AM
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It could just take longer for him to figure out it's okay. He might not.

I can tell you my whatever-it-is was about eight years in the making (nine? I can't count very well). I was with First Boyfriend and Current Boyfriend was our very dear and good friend. They worked together. Then I broke up with First Boyfriend, and after a bit, started going with Current Boyfriend. Then I broke up with Current Boyfriend (and made him move out). Now, they're both my boyfriend (lucky girl). I wasn't going at it with intention, but here it is.

I know it's painful. I recommend working on compersion, being happy for him if he finds happiness in new loves. Keep on loving him, even if he isn't your boyfriend (now).
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein

Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who now lives in a house far away-with stairs I can't climb)
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