Thanks. When I first read your response, I was going to disagree and say that the problem isn't that I feel inadequate so much as I feel like I'm inadequate for my partner. But then I read what you said again, and I think there is probably a lot of truth to it. If I felt adequate, in general, in life, I wouldn't need so much validation from him.
I still don't know how to fix it. But I really appreciate your perspective. Thanks for replying, and I enjoyed your rant