" looking up" I'm not sure I characterized that right after reading your last comments....that might be subjective. The comment about healing and meeting someone new got me thinking on upward glide path for you . But the reality is you will still have headaches and heartaches because of the continual tangle that you have. I know I've have similar situation .
I remember you life going sideways and things falling apart but I don't remember her being impregnated during it.....was that in there or did that come about after the blow up?
Why haven't you discover the paternity. What do the birth records say? Aren't you defacto on the hook unless proven otherwise until the kid reaches majority.
Where is she living now?
What happened to the BF? Whats his position on the child?