The other pressure that women often get is to Nice and Fair and all that. It often interferes with our efforts to stay safe.
You wanted her to go talk to that guy? That guy is NOT SAFE. Do NOT fucking pressure her to go against her own safety in order to be a nice girl. I don't fucking care if you think it is safe. See the posting above about being our job to see to our safety when actually it should not be.
Don't ask her to do things that are not or that she feels are not safe.
Don't pressure her to be nice to people who aren't safe or to people that she feels aren't safe.
You do not get to be the logical rational one while making her the "irrational emotional hysterical" one. Do NOT fucking do this.
Am I being harsh and angry? I guess maybe I am. Hopefully I am being clear.