Originally Posted by persephone
[...] his kids have some pretty extreme behavioral issues. [...] he needs anyone he dates to have a good relationship with his children, so I have tried to, even though they are very challenging kids.
There's your answer. Maybe his kids are "li'l bastards" because he half-asses relationships, like wanting you to come over and "cuddle in the basement." I work with children professionally, and I want to tell you when multiple children are behaving
like jerks, their parents usually are jerks. Choose wisely.