Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
I definitely appreciate your dilemma, and I respect your decision.
The only thing I would counsel is to not let her get too invested in you before you tell her. If she is someone you care about, you wouldn't want to hurt her, would you?
No, I don't want to hurt her, but as I said, I will let her know once there is an indication
of mutual romantic interest. In other words, in the moment I see that she is interested. She is at a very different place/stage in life and there are a few bridges to cross first. This is not like tricking a young girl at the county fair, where anything other than marriage is a deceit.