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Old 04-04-2012, 12:36 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Originally Posted by AnnabelMore View Post
...Because of all those factors, while I have no cause to think it's impossible for me to have a biological child, I also accept that it might never happen.
I'm 38 and it took me a long time to accept that it would probably never happen for me. It was even harder to make the decision to actively take measures that would ensure that it wouldn't .

Originally Posted by AnnabelMore View Post
...With Lin, as you said, if it were just the two of you, you wouldn't be thinking of having a kid, and with his health the future is no guarantee. Getting to be there with you and Sward and the new baby may be a shot at experiencing some of the magic of this whole process that he would otherwise have no opportunity for...
I would not have thought about having a baby with Dude if it were just the two of us. Based on his responses when I was (briefly) pregnant I think that he really would have enjoyed the vicarious experience.

(I wrote (more than I intended) about our experience in another thread:

Whatever you all decide it sounds like you are starting from a really strong foundation. Good luck!


PS. I'm also a "talking a topic to death" sort myself...totally understand where you are coming from there.
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (24+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (6+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost lover-friend to me, FWBs to SLeW
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

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