Hi Alice, and welcome.
You are not the only one who has gone out in search of a new language, and to try to exchange ideas on this utterly non-standard way of thinking in today's society.
I really hope that you find what you seek, one of those things being happiness :-)
Please check out The Birdcage - an open, friendly Polyamory forum for all parts of New York State
"Listen, or your tongue will make you deaf." - Native American Proverb