LotusesandRoses; we live in Israel, we speak in Hebrew here (his native language is Hebrew, mine is Russian..)
redpepper; you are right about most of the things, I might say "no" to suggestions here at first, but then I come back, reread stuff and it seems like a good idea to me..
He asked for now not to call it names, so i respect it.
However, today I let myself tell him in a more clear way that I like her (won't say love or in love now, since I haven't stated it to her anyway...) it is hard for him to understand how can I still love him the same and like her...
He said he needs time to process..I hope he gets it soon..
About the wedding, yeah we are both okay with it, it is all good, the problem is not there.