I'm about to be fluid bonded with one of my lovers (just waiting for his test results...)
I told him this:
if we fluid bond, it means I expect you to practice safe sex with other women.
But I expect you to tell me if you had unprotected sex with anyone, so we can go back to protected sex. But you don't HAVE to tell me if/ when you've had protected sex with someone.
It all comes down to trust, I guess.
The weird thing is that because I know him, and because the nature of our relationship, it would surprise me very much if he had safe sex with with someone and not tell me. But if he did, I would not be allowed to sulk about it, because I told him, in so many words, that he did not have to tell me.
My assumptions don't matter, the only thing that matters is what we agreed on.
early forties, straight.