Can't show the forum to him for two reasons, the main one is that his English is not good enough, the other one is that I don't want to shove words down his throat such as polyamor, secondar relationship, whatever, etc..
I don't believe in weddings, I think after the wedding nothing changes, we are commited to eachother now as we would be later on, this is just an awesome party (and to please the parents on the way). So there is no need to wait with the wedding, it will just add more stress.
I want to really get to him without pushing it too much,
I've seen here few good advices, but I'd like to hear more opinions, pesonal experiances.
I do look around the forum, but still, would like more responses if it is possible