Originally Posted by AnnabelMore
Have you considered just seeing your lover one night per week? Two nights is a lot for a relationship that's basically only sex when you have a full-time bf of your own. This could be a perfect compromise in that you still get to enjoy regular time with your lover, and your bf gets to see that you're willing to make a major concession (50% less time with the lover) for his sake. But in return he has to stop asking these invasive questions about your sex with him.
At the moment I'm not sure of anything, only that I dont want my boyfriend unhappy. If it means I see my lover twice, once or not at all, then so be it.
I want both, I'll be honest, it turns me on to have two men. A poly relationship with these two is something that means a lot to me. I will try to keep both, but only if my boyfriend is o.k with it. He's not at the moment, and that has to change.