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Old 03-31-2012, 08:26 PM
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Originally Posted by SuddenlyStoneElf View Post
I have the nagging feeling that I shouldn't be having any problem with this. But I do. It bothers me very much that someone is thinking about starting something with my husband without even talking to me.

Is this very common, that people outside will just approach one half of a couple and go ahead with their own plan...
OP, just thought I would point out how you expressed a couplecentric perspective. You used the terms "people outside" and not simply "people"... "one half of a couple" and not simply "a person who is in a relationship." I would hazard a guess that your difficulty with this woman's interest in your husband might stem from something akin to an "us versus the world" viewpoint, as if when you married you are now morphed together as a unit while everyone else sits outside of that, and a general belief that people should see you both as one unit, A Couple.
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