Originally Posted by Scott75
When talking with fellow poly members, I have argued that even though the polyamory community shuns cheating, I think we should include them as polyamory if they truly love more then one partner.
The definition of polyamory specifically excludes cheating. Go read Morning Glory's comments to the dictionary editors when they asked her to provide the definition for inclusion--she specifically excludes cheating.
And I certainly won't identify as part of a group that includes cheaters. The cheaters will have to find their own term that denotes unethical multi-partner affairs.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.