Originally Posted by zylya
Whether or not it is common or uncommon in poly relationships is completely irrelevent, because you've each got to do what's right for yourselves, ESPECIALLY when it comes to future kids.
THIS. I understand, oknewbs, you've talked about being a planner and a thinker and you want to know as much as you can before you dive in. But truly, every poly tangle is about what works for those people, and not about what works for anyone else in the world.
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein
Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who now lives in a house far away-with stairs I can't climb)