"I asked if he would be pissed off if I said I wasn't ready and he said no, that he would understand. So I did and he became very cold and angry with me over the phone. He said that he would respect my wishes but was very upset over my decision."
So he can't even keep his story straight from sentence to sentence... yeesh. :/
This guy has some growing up to do. He needs to examine why his words and actions don't match up and realize what a bad position this puts you in because ut means you can't trust him. I know you said you're afraid to tell him how you feel, but maybe he should read this thread for some perspective... I mean, if you don't feel like you can even talk to him, how can you two have a real relationship?
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.