Originally Posted by nycindie
What lifestyle? Why wouldn't you ask someone in whom you are interested if they are sexually involved with others? I guess I am not understanding the dilemma here, or what would prevent someone from asking questions.
When I say lifestyle I mean mean the swinger lifestyle. In my experience it's often time assumed couples & singles may have multiple partners because it's about the sex & variety outside your marriage without romantic ties. Forgive me if my questions sound bizarre; I'm basing them upon past experience within the swinger culture.
Now maybe I have always been off base to not have asked this question of previous partners. However because of the swinger culture including multiple partners its always been for me that condoms are required always and fluid bonding and exclusivity has never been on the table. For this reason it feels odd to ask.