About exes: I'm not sure how settled you are in your feelings about it but before we made the decision on poly I insisted they were off limits. Things have a possibility of getting real messy real quick and I'm really not built for that potential disaster.
km: That's an awesome idea, I wish I'd known about it sooner. I'm very much like Katie in that regard and while he's used to it I know my s/o would appreciate such a gesture. Thanks for sharing.