Originally Posted by km34
Do the women get off every time? It's not uncommon for women to have sex for the intimacy, pleasure, and such without actually having an orgasm. Why isn't okay for a man to do the same? Also, it's possible to orgasm without ejaculation, although most men don't experience it unless they train because the muscle sets are so closely connected.
I agree with Kyle.. If you're still enjoying it, you're not doing it too much. If you're exhausted with it and would rather just lie there and cuddle, then something needs to change.
Society has this view on sex that it's over when the man "finishes". Maybe it's time to change that view to something that focuses more on the emotional/spiritual side of sex for BOTH (or all - as the case may be elsewhere) involved.
THANK YOU! I've had sex and not gotten off before and been fine with it. I've also gotten off and wanted to continue. Almost every time I had to have a discussion with the other party involved to tell them that everything was fine and nothing was wrong. It's not always about the guy! I get way more pleasure out of getting the other person off than I do getting off myself.
"Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is the regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable." - Sydney Smith
Kyle: 27 year old male
Katie (rymmare): 25 year old female
Kids: girl: 5 years old, boy: 3 years old