Confused and honestly a bit scared
I never thought I would be writing a thread like this! A week ago I didn't even know Polyamory existed. My partner recently told me she was into polyamorous relationships. This left me with huge self doubts ... Why now, ? I'm not enough? Is there someone else? Is it cheating. ? I love her and we have been together 20 years? I thought I knew her. I appreciate the fact she is being honest with me. I believe her when she says she loves me. I think I want to understand. Can it work if I stay mono? Or do I give it a try? Do Polyamory couples feel jealous? How is this overcome? I feel all my dreams we had for our retirement are gone. Can you point me to some literature I can read. I want to understand but I'm so lost inside.