Originally Posted by ginj2
One thing I know is that when we fight it's always me stating a problem and him trying to look for a solution.
As a fellow problem-solver, I know where he's coming from. Is it possible you simply want him to listen and acknowledge your feelings without always trying to do something to "fix" them or the situation? That was a hard thing for me to learn to do. Sometimes I still forget to ask what a person is looking for and need them to let me know when they'd just like my empathy and not my advice.