Sorry, I haven't a drop of sanity to spare just now. I have found much here.
I was pretty damn freaked out when the real possibility of poly opened up before me. I'm a lot more calm now. I'm a little nervous about being in the same room with the two of them (we haven't been in the same room since the day before this became a possibility). But I keep saying that and they look at me like I'm crazy, and I do things that have been helping (had dinner with some other poly folks and, yet again, nobody's head exploded).