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Old 03-23-2012, 10:17 PM
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Default Partner vetting potential relationships

I've seen it discussed quite a lot here that people want to meet their partner's prospective love interests before things go further than friendship to be able to alert their partner to possible negative influences (cowboys/girls ect). It got me thinking that this isn't something that single people do. They don't have a friend to come along to offer an outside opinion before they decide to date someone. I don't know maybe you all have already thought of this but it was kind of a light bulb moment for me.

My partners have shown themselves to be responsible adults capable of making their own decisions. I'm pretty sure that if someone was destructive towards them or disrespectful towards me that it would be addressed with the new person that they were dating.

Poly is a fascinating journey. I keep thinking I have it mostly figured out and then I learn something new and re frame things in my head. I think that I will always want to get to know my metamours but from a place of wanting to meet the person rather than checking up to make sure that they are OK for my partner.
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