I think you'd be better off looking for a swinger community to discuss your issues. You're only focused on sex, it seems, and polyamory is more than that. I also want to point out how disrespectful it is to keep harping on your wife to "get a girlfriend" for your own prurient interests. I suggest you start working on your marriage before doing anything.
Oh, and yeah, women don't need your dick to rescue them.
Hot chick in the city.
Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me.