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Old 03-23-2012, 03:16 PM
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Ummm, you're young and single and dating. What's the problem? The woman you are dating feels a need not to be tied down in a commitment to you right now and wants to date other people. She wants to enjoy her independence - hooray for her! You seem to be having a bit of a tantrum about it, saying that's not who she really is to want that. Well, maybe you don't want it, but obviously she does. Who are you to say that she's holding back her real feelings or isn't really poly? You are judging her but you can't tell her how to live her life. Maybe you've become more attached to her than she is to you. Maybe you need to get your feet back on the ground.

You have a few choices: sit around and mope about it, enjoy your independence too, or break up. So, put on your big boy shorts, and deal with it.
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Last edited by nycindie; 03-23-2012 at 03:20 PM.
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