So did her relationship with that other guy have a sexual component?
How was the whole vacation situation sold to you? or rather how were you invited? What was your initial reaction? Did the 3 of you have conversations about it.
How did the sleeping arrangements get decided? Did you have separate rooms?
What I meant is ...if you believe that all your need cant be met by any one person and under your current dynamic why wouldn't you want to find someone to supplement the vast downtime. He's been poly for along time he clearly gets it. So why the either or attitude. Why should you have to give up anything ...I was talking adding.
The lesson learned is not making everyone special but never do joint vacations ...not worth the trouble ...my guess anyway
Last edited by dingedheart; 03-23-2012 at 12:01 AM.