Originally Posted by Chaz
... and she's communicated that quite clearly.
What she's communicated quite clearly is that she has no respect for you. Your choices can can include standing up and demanding respect, filing for divorce, or taking whatever she dishes out.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.